I’ve seen a lot of articles about grief and the way people experience grief.
At this stage in the pandemic, going into year three, we’ve been more separate from other people. Even as we see hope, there is this kind of pent-up angsting and sorrow over all the things that have been lost in that timeframe. Could that bring on grief by staying safe or trying to stay safe? What do we mean by grief?
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Grief is any kind of emotional loss. It is associated typically with the loss of a loved one, because it’s most pronounced, however, the loss of anything that’s valuable or cherished, may be considered something of grief. The small things like having to give up a whole sports season or the chance to study abroad or a family vacation- it’s just a gradation of a set of experiences people endure.
Recognizing the elongation of this pandemic, there are people who are on the cusp of recognizing the losses but not quite yet being able to embrace it.
Three pillars that you can stand on:
- Individual partner
- Career or purpose
- Friends and family
Like all of those things are little G griefs or little traumas that start to accumulate. And particularly when things aren’t going your way in any of those three pillar capacities, people can be struggling far more than they show when they’re on their face.
Emotions are like children.
If you try to quell an emotion without acknowledging it, it’s as if a child is throwing tantrums and you are trying to tell them how to behave. It just doesn’t work that way. acknowledge. Comfort the feelings. Until our feelings are brought to the surface, labeled, affirmed or acknowledged and shared, that feeling may not be real.
This is because feelings resonate and reverberate throughout our minds without really finding fruition or a solid structure that you can do something with.
Keys in managing grief
- Be gentle with ourselves
- Acknowledge the loss- big and small
- Identify or label the feeling associated to the loss
- Share the feeling with somebody else
Do not let it fester inside you. There are a lot of people who may be feeling the same way and would support you in your expression of grief.
Be GRIEF INFORMED! It’s a natural process that needs understanding.
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